Pam Spaulding points to this report (PDF format). Not surprisingly, San Francisco has the largest gay population in the country (8.2% in the metro area).
But what she (and I) found startling was the increase in same-sex couples from 2000 to 2005:
Seems gays are coming out all over, and not just in New York and California. North Carolina, for example, showed a 21% increase in out gay couples.